Have you ever flipped through a copy of Motor Trend magazine and thought this?:
"Nice ride. Now, I just need to save up four years of my salary and I can buy it..."
Or, have you ever checked out a copy of GQ, Esquire, or Details and felt bad about yourself afterward?
How about Men's Health or any other fitness magazine for men?
Do you remember how you felt after seeing a male model with ripped abs and some hot chick at his side?
I know how I used to feel when I saw this kind of thing.
I felt bad because I thought that I had to be like that guy to get that type of girl.
I felt bad because seeing jacked 'n ripped dudes made me soberly aware that I was far (very far) from being jacked 'n ripped.
I felt bad reading the style magazines because I didn't have a Rolex Submariner, a $3,500.00 bespoke suit, and $600 pair of Italian loafers because that's what women want men to wear, right?
That's what every man needs to look his best for the ladies, right?
Why You Might Feel Bad
If you really think about it, the point of all magazines is to generate advertising revenue through content.
It's their basic business model that has worked for decades.
Of course, the content in most of these magazines is usually interesting, insightful, and well written.
Also, it's not the content that makes you feel bad, per se.
What usually makes you feel bad is the pictures and advertisements...if you let them.
You might have those same thoughts I had thinking "nothing I have is good enough" or "I'm not good enough."
Then, conveniently nearby is some thing....some pair of shoes, a watch, a workout supplement, a cologne...that you need to have to feel good about yourself.
In fact, it's almost like these men's magazines WANT you to feel bad inside.
They WANT you to feel like an ugly, out of shape, nobody.
Then, they slip in the full page ads full of stuff you don't really need...stuff you'll never need...and make you think this:
"Hey, loser. Feeling down?? Buy THIS thing and you'll feel better about yourself.
In fact, you'll feel like a WINNER!"
Why You Shouldn't Feel Bad
Once you accept the fact that ads in men's magazines are motivated toward getting you to buy something, you'll be more clear on the following realities:
- Advertisements are designed to play on your emotions and insecurities
- Most women are not dating guys who are rich, ripped, and super fashionable
- Those high-priced items in men's magazines are nice-to-haves not need-to-haves
I can honestly say that I don't feel bad when looking at fitness or style magazines.
Because, I can tell the difference between ad messages and reality.
Plus, I have met MANY guys who are confident and successful with very attractive women - and these guys were not rich and looked nothing like the male models in magazines
Let me go one step further here and ask you how you feel when you see spam emails.
What about a spam header that reads like this?:
"Make your ladie smile big all nites long!!!"
You usually don't feel bad reading something like this, right?
You see the bad grammar and the big promise...and you KNOW it's spam.
Now, even if it's an ad for something appealing - like getting rich quickly, losing weight, or "increasing that certain part of a man's body" (as one ad says) - you know it's just an ad to sell you something.
What's more interesting is that you don't feel bad looking at spam ads - not because they're poorly written and ridiculous, but because their agenda is clearly exposed.
If you approach men's magazines with the same mindset, you will feel a lot better about yourself.
Now, if you STILL feel bad looking at men's magazines, remember these ideas:
- Most fitness mags show PROFESSIONAL models who diet down and cut water weight before a shoot (i.e., their "walk around" weight and look is different)
- Most women are MORE attracted to a funny, interesting guy with NO watch - versus a humorless, boring stiff who wears a Rolex
- Having good style or being in shape does NOT mean you have to spend a lot of money
Their Real Value
Notice how I never said that men's magazines are evil?
Honestly, I have a couple subscriptions to men's magazines and I read them regularly.
Here's what I get out of them:
- Fresh ideas for combining clothes, shoes, and accessories
- Inspirational stories from other men
- Workout and diet tips plus tricks for staying motivated
- Grooming and general health ideas
- Interesting conversational topics
So, if you look at men's magazines for inspiration or knowledge, they can actually add something to your life.
Can you copy an outfit you see without having to spend a fortune on the actual items listed?
Can you learn from an article on skin care or shaving without having to spend a fortune on the items mentioned?
Can you get workout inspiration from seeing other in-shape dudes without having to join a gym whose monthly cost is more than your car payment?
Don't Be Like Jeff
I have this friend "Jeff" who is decent-looking and very intelligent.
He is also consistently unsuccessful with women.
He's not bad in the way that women won't talk to him. They just won't date him. Why?
Because, Jeff dresses like crap.
His shirts are too baggy. His pants hang too low. His shoes? Just plain sad.
His whole sense of style can be summed up with this phrase:
1980's Suburban Dad who has given up on life.
So, I once told Jeff to check out a particular men's magazine if he wanted to improve his style a bit.
This was Jeff's dismissive response:
"No thanks. That magazine is for metro-sexuals. Totally lame..."
The last time I heard from him, Jeff was getting dumped by a woman 10 years older and 10 lbs. heavier than he was. Not good.
Lesson? Don't be like Jeff.
If you can open your mind to ideas and information that help you look your best, you'll have an advantage over guys who don't.
Just ignore the cheesy ads, learn what you can, and never feel bad.
If you do this, you'll blow past all the Jeffs of the world and stand out to new women - and there's nothing lame about that.