2. Seeing Yourself as the Victim
The Victim-Loop Reel
…you can choose a better frame for your entire life.
Now if we all were to see our lives like a movie, you might notice this going on:
A lot of guys keep looping the “insurmountable odds” part of the movie over and over again in their heads.
They keep thinking about how they’ve been driven up a tree where everyone is throwing rocks at them – never once thinking that there is a way out.
They don’t see themselves as the hero in the movie but rather, the victim.
If you see yourself as a victim in the world of dating and women, you’ll focus on your past failures and your shortcomings and replay those negative experiences over and over in your head.
You might see yourself as the victim and think beautiful women only want guys who are tall, rich, and handsome (and that’s not you).
You might see yourself as a victim and tell yourself that you have been dumped, rejected, cheated on, Friend Zoned, or simply ignored by women because you are too short, too broke, too skinny, too fat, too unconfident, or simply too shy.
You might just see yourself as a victim of bad luck.
However, if you follow the advice of stand-up comic and podcaster Joe Rogan, you can choose a better frame for your entire life.