Okay, I know what you're thinking and it's probably something like this:
Great. Here's another 'dating expert' who thinks he has all the answers! Gimme a freakin' break...
If you're thinking that right now, no problem. I get it. I really do.
Now, while I don't have all the answers (who does, right?), I do have an area of expertise that's pretty useful if you're a single guy.
That is, I AM an expert...at screwing up with women.
Yes, I've made every mistake possible and I've seen my friends make every mistake possible too.
Did I learn from my mistakes and those of other guys?
Did I have a big turnaround where dating very attractive women became easy?
Now, keep reading to learn more...
The Right Question
More than a decade ago, I asked myself this dumb question a lot of guys ask themselves at some point:
Are women not responding to me because I'm doing something wrong or am I just ugly??
As it turns out, I'm not ugly :)
Of course, when you're a single dude and things are not happening for you in the dating department, it's normal to have all kinds of crazy thoughts.
How did things turn around for me?
Simple. I asked myself the right question, which is this:
What can I change up to have more confidence, more awareness, and more success with the kinds of women I really want?
Once I asked myself that question, something weird happened...
"Super Joe" Type Guys
Once I asked the right question, I started to run into Average Joe type guys who were extremely confident with very attractive women.
None of these guys were rich or super good looking, but things were just easier for them.
They just knew what they were doing around women.
I'm talking about one of those average-looking guys you see with a pretty girl who makes you think this:
How did HE get her?? He's gotta be rich. Or, maybe he's just packing some SERIOUS equipment...
Now, once I got to know these "Super Joe" type guys, I understood their secret to success with women had nothing to do with looks, money, or what they were "packing."
In fact, these guys were successful because of something much simpler...
A Study in Contrasts
After spending years with regular guys who are great with women, did I "crack the code" for winning over any women?
Did I find some secret formula for dating supermodels - even if you're broke, toothless, and you live in a van down by the river?
No. Hell no.
My understanding came much more subtly after comparing the "Super Joe" type guys to buddies of mine who weren't so good with women.
My friends who weren't good with women were intelligent yet stubborn.
They'd have very specific theories about "what women want."
Then, after a rejection, they'd complain how "...most hot chicks are just gold-diggers, or shallow, or just plain dumb."
Yes, my smart buddies would overanalyze.
They would fumble around and fail, over and over.
They would give up.
Eventually, I had this Aha Moment thought:
Okay. So, being great with women is more about what you DON'T do. Now I get it...
Then, from a long and specific list of don't-do's, this program was born.
So, just like the Rich Dad, Poor Dad (Kiyosaki) or the Eat This, Not That! (Zinczenko) series, this program is the same study of contrasts and in a subject area just as important as your money or health.
"Meeting new people and dating can be like a minefield, but, if you REALLY learn where those danger spots are (and how to navigate around them), sometimes that's all you need to get the girl."
- Jimmy Nickel, Reboundy Creator